Get out of the workplace 'Doghouse'

Ever found yourself in the workplace doghouse? Being “in the doghouse” is a British and American idiom for being in trouble with someone who has the ability to affect your life. Insubordinate athletes are often in the doghouse with their coaches.

Or, employees with their bosses. I remember finding myself in the doghouse early in my career. A new executive joined the leadership team and moved into the office right next to the CEO.

This new executive had a lot of opinions about my area of responsibility and was freely sharing those with others. In the process, he planted seeds of doubt about my leadership and I could feel, slowly but surely, that my influence was waning.

I didn’t feel he was playing fair. I didn’t think he was right. But that wasn’t the issue. The issue is that my effectiveness to lead was hampered and I needed to take action. If you’re wondering if you’re in the doghouse, here’s how to get out:

Act quickly. The doghouse is self-reinforcing. The longer you’re in the doghouse, the less your ideas will
get through.

Be humble. Make it easy for people to give you feedback by admitting that you know something is wrong. Ask them for their insights and advice.

Be patient. Being in the doghouse probably hit you by surprise. But it didn’t happen overnight. I was vulnerable to the new executive’s nifty tricks because there were others that felt snubbed and wanted my attention as well.

Go overboard. Perceptions die hard. Don’t give anybody a reason to question your commitment. Postpone vacations. Arrive early. Leave late.

Ask for help. If you need help, ask for it. You didn’t misbehave on purpose. Surround yourself with the people who complement your skills.

Solidify your base. Even your supporters will question their judgment in light of your new residence. Stay connected to the other important dogs in your pack and don’t neglect them and your other responsibilities.

Be confident. Everybody finds themselves in the doghouse at one time or another in their career. It doesn’t really matter that you are in trouble. What matters is how you rebound from adversity and demonstrate resilience.

For me it was miserable being in the doghouse. But with the right attitude and a lot of hard work, I learned a few new tricks and used the experience to my longer-term benefit.