Are you sure?

The moment you are asked, 'Are you sure?' you begin to have doubts, is it not? You will perhaps review your decision, run it past trusted friends and family, and, if necessary, make some changes to improve it. You may even junk it and decide on something entirely different. Beyond that, to keep wallowing in self-doubt is certainly not a good thing as that can lead to low self-esteem and erosion of self-confidence. Sometimes, delays can have worse consequences than a flawed decision. You simply have to march forward.

Krishn, in the Gita, says overthinking is not desirable. Instead, it is better to focus on one's duties, and do one's best without getting distracted by possible outcomes. With such focus, the mind remains centred and uncluttered, enabling the possibility of good results. Indecisiveness is the sign of a mind that is easily swayed and distracted, unfocused and, therefore, uncentred.

The quality to aim for is equanimity, the stithaprajna that Krishn talks about, the one who remains steadfast under all circumstances, with no expectations and no thought of the fruits of one's actions. A good way to achieve this is through regular meditation, that boosts self-confidence and brings mental clarity. With discipline and determination, all hurdles on this front can be overcome. So, the next time you are asked, 'Are you sure?' you will dither no longer. You will respond with confidence and determination, sure of yourself and your actions.