‘NRI dream is a trap’: Woman says clean roads and fresh air come at the cost of isolation, endless chores and toxicity

A social media user @deebayleaf shared a post describing how her cousin allegedly faced a difficult experience after marrying an NRI and moving abroad. According to her, the reality turned out very different from expectations of a better life overseas.

Allegations of isolation and excessive chores

The user claimed her cousin experienced extreme loneliness and was burdened with constant household responsibilities after relocating. She said the woman was expected to manage “endless chores” while also being told to remain connected to her Indian roots.

“Expected to be a 24/7 unpaid labourer”

In her post, the user wrote, “Reminder that the ‘NRI dream life’ is often a trap. My cousin just left her husband and came back to India. She said the reality of moving abroad was just extreme isolation, endless chores and toxic in-laws demanding extra labor to ‘stay rooted’.”

She further added, “She mentioned the ‘clean roads and fresh air’ aesthetic faded real quick the second she realised she was expected to be a 24/7 unpaid labourer with zero social life.”

Claims about wider trend among women

The post also suggested that similar experiences may be faced by other young Indian women who move abroad after marriage but feel unable to leave due to family and social pressure in India.

“So many young girls are stuck in this but can’t leave because of family pressure at home in India,” the user added.

Strong opinions on marriage abroad

The user also commented on marriage choices, saying, “This is why you should never marry an NRI but become one by yourself, but don't fall for propaganda that says life is worse in Europe or the West. The worst things in these countries are still better than the best in India,” a user said.

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