Bengaluru techie got her dream job, but cries alone in her PG every night; Internet feels her pain

It should have been a proud moment, landing a full-time job after a successful internship in Bengaluru. But for one young software development engineer, the milestone came wrapped in silence. Posting under the username @Confident-Floor-2943 on Reddit, the woman opened up about the emotional toll of living and working in a city that feels anything but home.

“I feel like a ghost,” she wrote. “Even when I cry or laugh, no one notices.” Her words resonated deeply with thousands who have felt the same in fast-paced cities, far from their families and comfort zones.

She described how her PG (paying guest accommodation), once a place of promise, now feels lifeless. Her closest friends have moved away, and Bengaluru’s infamous traffic makes meeting new ones even harder. But the isolation didn’t stop at home.


At work, things felt no different.

As the only woman on a male-dominated team, she said her presence was often brushed aside. “The guys do not acknowledge me or include me in trivial things,” she wrote, adding that a male colleague who joined with her was treated very differently. With senior members leaving the company, she now feels lost without support or mentorship.

Her post struck a nerve with many. Reddit users flooded the comments with messages of empathy, sharing their own stories of feeling invisible in big cities.

“I’m here for four years now and feel the same,” one user said. “The city has become very depressing from the core.”

“Everyone goes through this phase,” another added. “Welcome to adulthood. It’s tough, but you’re not alone.”

Some urged her to seek help, reminding her that there’s no shame in reaching out to a mental health professional. Others suggested finding small ways to reconnect, with a hobby, a local group, or even just a new routine.

Her story is not a one-off. It echoes the experiences of many young professionals, especially women, trying to find their footing in the corporate world. Moving to a new city often brings hope, but also a quiet ache for belonging. The mix of work stress, social disconnection, and the absence of family support can create an emotional void that’s hard to fill.

In cities like Bengaluru, where dreams often collide with deadlines, stories like hers remind us to look around, and check in on the people who seem “okay.” Behind those daily calls and meetings, someone might just be waiting to be seen, to be heard.

Because sometimes, saying “I feel like a ghost” is the loudest cry for help.

Disclaimer: This article is based on a user-generated post on Reddit. ET.com has not independently verified the claims made in the post and does not vouch for their accuracy. The views expressed are those of the individual and do not necessarily reflect the views of ET.com. Reader discretion is advised.