Ten ways to a calm and happier you

It happens to the best of us. Life feels like an endless misery and self-pity seems the only solace. Anxiety and worry feel normal.

Sounds familiar? Now ask yourself who is to blame for all the misery? Well, you. Because you alone have the power to change yourself and in turn your situations. The world after all is a reflection of your inner being. Simply turn the switch around. The mind is an incredibly powerful thing. You'll be surprised. Here's how to turn your mind set:

Stop the comparison

So your neighbour at 25 has got herself a fancy new job, dream man and wines and dines at all the top restaurants around the world. So what? That's her journey. What's yours? We are all special, precious and unbelievably unique in our own way. Believe in the thought that your life is custom made for you. You'll be given all that you want and deeply desire when the time is right. So stop the comparison with those around you (read: ticking the wrong check boxes) and work on accepting yourself and what you have. How could anyone be happy following the same formula as everyone else when we are all so different? It is the same as if you change the numbers in a math problem, the answer is different.

Know yourself

So what stops you from accepting yourself? Think about it. It is possible that you don't know yourself.So, you won't know any better.Getting to know yourself is the first step in the pursuit of happiness.Look at what you do and how you do it without judgment. Setting priorities right and being mindful of the time you spend with others is a mark of a self-loving person. And priorities change over time, so it is also important to assess your motivations and where you are letting your energy go, time and again.

Don't talk shop

Most people when asked who they are, end up telling, what they do.So is your profession your identity? The work you do is part of who you are. Don't be deluded by the fact that it defines you. Set boundaries for yourself. Build a life outside of your office. Turn off your work phone (if that is an option) as soon as you reach home, and don't bother getting online. Apply your natural abilities and talents not only in your professional life, but in your personal life too.

Your partner is human

Everybody would like a connection.Some people are unhappy in all types of relationships because they operate and define them by someone's ability to meet their expectations, instead of approaching them based on individual understanding. No one can give you anything that you have not yet accessed alone. It's about connecting with yourself.

Attack anxiety

When you're feeling anxious, step outside of your life and look at it objectively -what is your anxiety trying to tell you? When you understand your anxiety, you can change the way you treat it.

Depresssion, again, is a symptom trying to show you something within yourself. It should take you to your path of self-discovery. The key to getting out of depression is understanding that you aren't alone and that it is an expression of your body telling you that something is off. So become an explorer and find out what's causing it.