Taking stock of your erotic capital makes you attractive in the bedroom

If you’re not seen as attractive, there are ways to change that, according to sociologist Catherine Hakim. She’s a British social scientist based at the Institute for the Study of Civil Society and also the author of Erotic Capital: The Power of Attraction in the Boardroom and the Bedroom.

Hakim says that everyone’s perceived attractiveness comes down to something called erotic capital, a collection of attributes that, when taken together, form a powerful personal asset that’s essential to our success in and out of the bedroom. The more of each element of erotic capital you possess, the higher your overall erotic net worth.

As Hakim describes in her book, “Erotic capital combines six elements of physical and social attractiveness: beauty, sex appeal, fitness and liveliness, social skills, sexuality, and skills of selfpresentation.” The point, then, is to learn to exploit the attributes you can do something about in order to increase your net erotic capital. If you don’t have the physical appearance you’d like, or you’re not getting the responses you’d like from how you look, you can change that by spending more time and putting more importance on appearance, for example. Savile Row exists for a reason. in.askmen. com