Stop building houses for your children: Gurgaon CEO says Indian parents are solving the wrong problem

In many Indian families, building a house is seen as a lifetime goal. It is often done with one clear idea in mind — that the next generation will live there and carry forward the family’s roots. But Jasveer Singh, a CEO and founder from Gurgaon has led to a conversation online by questioning this long-held belief, asking parents to rethink where they put their life savings.

A common dream, but a changing reality

The founder’s message is direct and personal. Reflecting on a visit to his grandfather’s house, he pointed out how a home built with years of sacrifice can slowly lose its purpose. “This post is for Indian parents. And for future Indian parents. Stop building houses for your son and daughter. You are solving the wrong problem.”



He described how that house was once full of plans and expectations. It was meant to be a place where the next generation would return and settle. But life took a different turn. “They studied well. Built careers. Moved to bigger cities. One even moved to the US. Life upgraded for them. Opportunities pulled them elsewhere.”

Over time, the house that once stood as a symbol of security became empty. “And slowly the house that once held dreams now sits quietly with no one to light a lamp in the evening. Locked. Almost abandoned.”

The contradiction parents often ignore

The founder highlights a gap between what parents want and what actually happens. On one hand, parents encourage their children to grow, earn more, and aim for better opportunities. On the other, they expect them to come back and live in the same home built decades ago.

“Indian parents are solving the wrong problem. You want your son and daughter to grow, earn more, live bigger. But at the same time you expect them to live in the same house you built 30 years ago.”

He calls this expectation unrealistic, especially in a time when careers and lifestyles are constantly changing.

“If your son or daughter earns 10x more than you, their lifestyle will also change. Their city may change. Their home will change. Their world will change.”

Why homes don’t stay relevant forever

Another point he raises is how quickly living standards evolve. Homes built today may not suit the needs of the next generation years later. “Every 15-20 years homes become outdated and people move to new spaces that fit their life.”

This means that a house built with full life savings may not hold the same value for children in the future, at least not in the way parents imagine.


Instead of investing everything into property for children, the founder suggests a different approach. He advises parents to focus on things that actually help the next generation grow. “Invest in their education. Invest in their freedom. Keep your money liquid. Use it to improve your own life.”

His message is not against owning a home, but against sacrificing comfort and financial security for an expectation that may never come true. “But please stop sacrificing your entire life to build a house for them.”

Many people shared mixed reactions online. Some feel having a home, no matter the size, provides a mental safety net that allows children to take risks and pursue their dreams. Others argued that while owning property is important, parents should not sacrifice their entire comfort and life savings just to build a house for their children. Experiences from smaller cities show that a house can be a significant financial asset and even a smart long-term investment, especially where property values are growing. Yet, there is a common thread in the discussion: intentions of love and security are understandable, but over-investing emotionally or financially in real estate for the next generation can backfire if it compromises one’s own life.