Six cheating myths busted

Everyone has heard of the extramarital relationships of Bill Clinton, Tiger Woods and Arnold Schwarzenegger, so if anyone’s going to stray, it’s going to be the man, right? What about Meg Ryan, Madonna, Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Lopez? One of the great myths about infidelity is that only men sleep around. Not true. Women also cheat.
According to Scott Haltzman, psychiatrist, Brown University, the greatest challenges to a committed relationship is when one partner goes outside the marriage to look for a connection, either physical and emotional.

After an affair, a couple can’t be happy again

Affairs happen, and people do recover —you hardly ever hear success stories because no one’s talking. Couples can learn to successfully rebuild their relationships, and many of Haltzman’s patients say their bonds are even stronger once they’ve worked things through. Distinguishing fact from fiction can help you and your partner gain a better understanding of the situation and how to prevent it.

It’s all about sexual attraction

Sure, yeah, some affairs are only about the sex, but lots of the time, affairs happen because of an emotional connection. Sometimes hanging out together and sharing feelings is as far as the affair ever goes, though emotional closeness often leads to sex.

Marital problems is the cause

Almost every marriage has problems. Affairs don’t happen because something’s wrong with the marriage; they happen, in part, because couples don’t know how to work together to solve the issues they have.

Once a cheater, always a cheater

Not everyone who cheats is evil incarnate. What happens after the affair can set a marriage on a course for stability, or blow it out of the water. For healing to take place, the cheater has to tell the whole truth about the affair.

People fall for youth and looks

Not necessarily! Think of Arnold Schwarzenegger’s affair with his housekeeper. And, did you see some of the women Tiger messed around with? Sometimes the 60-something CEO might seek out younger playmates, but, typically, paramours are no younger, richer or more attractive than spouses — they’re just someone new.

It isn’t cheating if sex isn’t involved

Many affairs happen without any sex at all. Is staying up half the night secretly texting an old classmate about your most intimate thoughts being unfaithful? When you give an emotional part of yourself to someone with whom you could potentially cheat one day, it’s cheating.

— in.askmen.com