Had a fight recently? Here are eight ways to calm your angry partner

Is it really safe to ask your partner to take a chill pill when she is really angry? Best not to say something that can flare up an argument. If your partner is angry because of you, then you have to be even more cautious when defending yourself or it will add fuel to the fire.

First things first: let your partner vent out their emotions. After that, here are some ideas that will help calm her down:

Back off

If your partner's anger is beyond control, then giving a compassionate hug might prove to be dangerous. Instead, give her a wide berth and come back later. However, if she runs out of the house, do chase her down! People become irrational when they lose their cool.

Listen and be agreeable

Though it is unlikely that your partner will pay any heed to you when she is angry, build up a little courage to 'break the ice'. Also, try to be quiet when your partner shouts because if you can listen without interrupting, it can prevent another argument. However, don't be a doormat. Agree only with whatever you can.

Counselling helps

Sometimes your spouse may be angry because something has been bothering her for a while now. The reason might not be you at all. If you discover that he or she is having serious emotional issues, then handle the situation tactfully. Try to decode what is making her angry and overtly emotional and give her some sound advice.

Don't run away

It is quite natural that you want to avoid your partner when she is angry. However, it is not a good idea to ignore her. Communication gaps from your end may prove fatal as this can make her feel like you simply don't care.

Know her melting point

This trick can come handy in situations that go beyond control. If a loving touch can placate her, go with it. If you have committed a blunder, then give a genuinely sorry look which can melt away the anger.

Surrendering is the best idea

Feigning approval is not a good idea; it can lead to another argument. Nod your head or sigh to show you have surrendered to her anger for the time being.

Humour helps

Humour is perhaps the best medicine to cool down someone who is seething with anger. Say things like "Here we go again" or "I bet if you yell a little louder, you can have control over me". If you are brave, then you can also put on some music and ask your partner to dance. This might provoke your partner to laugh. However, use words carefully to avoid misfire.

Speak the truth

Saying something like, "It hurts me and scares me when you treat me like this. I love you and want to connect with you" can calm down your spouse. Show that you really want to learn what went wrong without fighting.

Disclaimer

Use these tips only after judging how angry your partner is. These methods can backfire if you don't take stock of the situation. After all angry spouse is in a 'fragile' state and needs to be handled with ' extreme care'.