Getting divorced? Don't let it take over your professional life

As someone who experienced divorce firsthand, Gregory Frank knows a thing or two about how tough it can be for professionals to get through the workday while ending their marriage.

"It is difficult, if not close to impossible, for people to get up and go to work every day when they're going through that," says Frank, the CEO and co-founder of DivorceForce, an online community for those affected by divorce. "You have all sorts of emotions: fear, loneliness, anger, depression. These feelings take a toll on your ability to focus, have energy, and face the world. Most people feel alone when in a divorce, so going to work is a smart move to help keep yourself busy, and stay social. It forces you to carry on each day."

Keep reading for Frank's tips on how to stay productive, and get through the workday when you're going through a divorce:

-Block divorce-related messages: Review divorce-related emails after work, Frank advises. "Reading motions and complaints from your lawyer during business hours is a no-no. You'll lose focus and potentially ruin the day. Only talk to your lawyer after work. Keep your communications regular and structured — you'll avoid the emotional roller coaster and cut down on your legal bills."

-Find a safe space: Feeling stressed? Take a break. "Go for a walk, get a cup of coffee, or go sit in your car or a quiet corner and shut your eyes for 10 minutes and just breathe," he suggests.

-Be selective in who you share this news with: "Inform your supervisor," he says. "Let them know that you are going through a life-changing event, and although you may seem off at times, that you are focused on the job and will ensure your duties are performed."

Don't talk to everyone about your divorce — nothing good will come out of it. "Do you need a dozen people asking you every day, ‘How's the divorce going?'"

-Leave the drama at home: When you enter your job, commit to the next eight hours and leave your drama at home, he advises. "Keep your phone in the drawer. Avoid texts from friends and family and agitating emails from the lawyer."

-Have a go-to answer prepared: Co-workers are going to recognise that something is off, and having a response ready for when they ask you what's up is important. "Something like, 'I'm currently going through something personal, and do appreciate your concern — but I'll be fine, thank you' is a good option," says Frank.

-Identify quick mood boosters: Know what will help boost your mood so you can do that thing whenever you start feeling down. "Put on your headphones or speakers, and listen to your favourite tunes," says Frank.

-Clean up your desk: "No need to look at a family picture all day," Frank says. "Those are sure to set off emotions that will interfere with your ability to focus."


Source: Business Insider



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