From ‘ours’ to ‘mine’: Dr A Velumani drops truth bomb on how marriage has changed since the 1970s

Relationships evolve with time, just like the world around us. The way couples see love, money, space, and even identity has shifted dramatically from one generation to the next. What was once a shared journey is becoming increasingly personal, sparking conversations across social media.

Recently, Thyrocare’s Dr. A. Velumani shared a nostalgic reflection that struck a chord with many. He highlighted how, back in the 1970s, money in a marriage was often seen as shared, not “yours” or “mine,” but “ours.” In contrast, in today's world, even spaces like bedrooms are being defined individually, “yours” or “mine,” not “ours.”

This isn’t just about words, it reflects a larger cultural shift. Modern relationships are often shaped by personal freedom, individual growth, and the pursuit of what many call the “standard of living.” But older generations, particularly those born in the 1950s, may argue that this has come at the cost of something deeper, a true “quality of life.”




In an earlier post, he drew attention to how priorities during marriage can shape a couple’s long-term journey. He spoke of two contrasting approaches: one where couples use their money, energy, and knowledge to plan for 50 years of married life, aiming for peace and stability; and another where the focus is on spending lavishly for 50 days of wedding celebrations, living in the spotlight briefly, only to return to a less sustainable reality.


Through these insights, he urges people to prioritize peace over pomp, and long-term harmony over short-term glamour. It’s a quiet but impactful reminder that while trends and expectations may evolve, the foundation of a lasting relationship still rests on understanding, compromise, and shared vision.