Does your marriage still have a fighting chance? Take this quiz to find out

If your current relationship status is 'separated', what comes after can be a big question mark. Take this quiz to find out if your marriage still has a fighting chance:

Do you greatly dislike your partner's personality or do you hate his or her actions and habits?

a) We do not get along on a basic level anymore.

b) He/she isn't a bad person; it's their actions that made us drift apart.

If you had a simple choice, what would you pick: Divorce or a better marriage with the same person?

a) Divorce.

b) A better marriage.

Have you sought couples counselling to get over the issues in your marriage and to try to better understand your spouse?

a) We have tried a few therapists, but have always landed up in the same unhappy space.

b) We are currently considering counselling to help our relationship.

In the relationship, has one party ever abused the other's trust — be it with an affair, hiding assets or even an addiction that they do not want to address?

a) I have lost all trust in my partner and do not know how to trust again.

b) There have been no major reasons for us falling out of love; we just drifted apart.

Have you and your partner been through a very stressful situation lately such as a financial crisis, miscarriage or relocation?

a) No major change.

b) Yes, we have had a major life change.

Is there a third party in your relationship, either from your side or your partners?

a) Yes – there is a third party.

b) No – there is no one else.

Is your sexual incompatibility a driving factor in you separating?

a) No, the sex was good.

b) Yes, our libidos did not match entirely.

ANSWERS

Mostly As: This is going to be a tough call for you. When a third party is involved or if there has been a major breach of trust, chances or reconciliation are slim (but not nil). It looks like your relationship isn't as strong as it once was and you want out because you have tried to make it work in the past to no avail. While divorce may be the best option for both of you, if there's a part of you that's still unsure, do visit a counsellor. If one therapist isn't helping, get another.

Mostly Bs: You seem to like the person but not their actions, which implies that this separation could have a positive outcome for you after all. All the problems that are currently causing your union to fall short are issues that can be fixed — yes, even mismatched libidos. The only thing you need to make things work is the desire to want a better marriage. Divorce doesn't seem to be on the cards for you.