Do you have a work nemesis? Here is how to tackle the situation

A nemesis doesn’t have to be an over-the-top, evil supervillain. It can simply refer to a long-time rival. According to Jason Hanold, the founder of executive and board search firm Hanold Associates, such contentious work relationships stem from jealousy. “Jealousy is the root cause of most workplace grudges and bad behaviour. Jealousy of relationships with peers, bosses, their teams, as well as jealousy of performance, promotions, or even offices or work area locations,” says Hanold. If you’re not sure about that rival, here are some signs to figure out along with a few tips on dealing with the situation.

The suspect plays it hot and cold
One minute, you’re besties with this co-worker. He’s bombarding you with social media friend requests and coffee invites. The next thing you know, he’s ignoring you in the break room and acting like you’re invisible. Or maybe he’s the guy who gives you dirty looks across the office, only to lob an underhanded compliment your way when the manager is looking.
Tip: Clear the air.
There’s a chance that the negative relationship developed through a misunderstanding, leading to mutual hostility. “A civil confrontation often resolves a growing issue,” Hanold says. Sit down with your nemesis and explain your side of the story.

They try to undermine you
A subtle nemesis will set you up for failure at every turn. Whether he’s blatantly stealing credit for your big idea, or she’s “accidentally” leaving you off important emails, your workplace enemy will take steps to ensure you don’t succeed.
Tip: Find allies.
It’s a good idea to open up to others when you’re dealing with a hostile co-worker. Hanold says, “If a nemesis is bad mouthing you or attempting to spread untrue gossip, people who know and trust you will be at your defense.” And if the situation becomes totally toxic, it’s a good idea to alert a trusted manager.

They are competitive
Being competitive isn’t a bad thing but your nemesis probably takes it too far. Instead of doing honest work in order to rise to the head of the pack, this person is working hard to make him or herself look good, usually at your expense.
Tip: Focus on yourself.
It can be hard to turn the other cheek when you’re dealing with a hypercompetitive nemesis. However, it’s a good idea to just focus on your own work. Odds are, they’ll trip themselves up in their narrow-minded quest to beat you at all costs.

They are the boss’s favourite
You put your head down and work hard, but your boss only has praise for one of your colleagues. It’s an infuriating situation.
Tip: Move on.
It’s more productive to think about whether your boss’s conduct is fair or just harmful to office morale. It’s probably a good idea to be the bigger person and just move on, Hanold says. “Prioritise whose opinion matters most to you, professionally and personally.”.