BTS’ RM says marriage won’t solve loneliness. Singer opens up about why he is uncertain about having kids

BTS members are leaving no stone unturned in keeping fans engaged, from dazzling looks to back-to-back Weverse updates, all while working tirelessly on their highly anticipated Spring 2026 comeback album. Amid the whirlwind of preparation, the group still manages to dedicate time to connect with ARMY. Recently, leader RM, also known as Kim Namjoon, went live on Sunday (October 5) and gave fans an unfiltered glimpse into his personal thoughts. Looking as charismatic as ever, the rapper shared his honest thoughts on marriage, family, and the pressures society often places on such decisions.

RM opens up about marriage and kids

The live session quickly became the talk of social media, gaining widespread attention across the world. What stood out most was RM’s candid perspective, which many fans described as both "refreshingly real" and "deeply thoughtful." His words struck a chord not only with ARMY but also with netizens who praised his maturity and wisdom, with some even half-joking that he should consider a career in politics someday.



During the conversation, RM opened up about the pressures many people face regarding marriage. He noted that cultural and media-driven expectations often weigh heavily, particularly on women, who are frequently reminded about responsibilities such as raising children. According to him, this constant societal push can feel like being forced into a mold. Instead, he emphasised the importance of letting individuals live at their own pace, without labelling one life choice as universally right.

On the topic of companionship, RM shared that marriage should not be seen as an escape from loneliness. He explained that people who cannot be at peace with themselves when alone may not find their struggles solved by marriage. Even within a partnership, there are moments when solitude is necessary, he pointed out, adding that someone who feels content alone is often able to build a healthier relationship when they do come together with another person.

When it came to parenthood, RM admitted to being uncertain. With a hint of humour, he shared how difficult it already is to take care of himself, questioning whether he could handle the responsibility of raising a child with their own unique personality. He recalled the challenges he once gave his own parents growing up and wondered aloud how he might manage if his child shared those same traits. While he acknowledged the love that comes with parenting, he also recognised the immense responsibility it brings.

The BTS leader also underlined that there is no single correct path when it comes to marriage and children. People who are married speak from their experiences, while those who are not have their own perspectives, and neither side can fully grasp the other’s reality. For that reason, he encouraged everyone to listen to different stories but ultimately make choices that align with their own circumstances and values. He added that his generation, particularly those born in the 1990s in Korea, is perhaps the first to truly view marriage as optional rather than mandatory.


RM’s words quickly spread online, sparking a wave of admiration. Fans praised his openness, emotional intelligence, and spiritual outlook. One fan wrote that his reflections "always sound like poetry that makes you think about life differently." Another remarked how calming it was to hear his thoughts in his soothing voice, while many others suggested he should consider hosting a podcast to share more of his wisdom regularly. Married fans also chimed in, agreeing with his statement that even in a committed relationship, personal space is essential.

About BTS' upcoming projects

As the conversation around RM’s comments continues, excitement for BTS’s future activities is also reaching new heights. With all members prepping for the comeback album, which is slated for release in Spring 2026, followed by a massive world tour covering over 65 cities across North America, Europe, and Asia. This will mark their first full-group project since 2021, making it one of the most highly anticipated returns in the music world. Stay tuned!