Are you facing a trust deficit? Take this quiz to find out

Take this quiz to find out if your relationship rests on a house of lies or a rock-solid foundation of openness and trust:

Are you able to tell your partner anything, even if it is something you're embarrassed or ashamed about? Do you think they will still love you even if they know your worst secret?

a) Yes — we've discussed everything with an open mind.

b) No — there are a few things I have kept to myself. I don't know how she will react.

Would you and your partner share bank details and passwords with each other in case of an emergency and be confident knowing that the other person was not going to snoop?

a) Yes, we help each other out and there's no need for snooping because we trust each other.

b) My partner has changed her passwords after giving it to me in an emergency.

Your partner has gone a bit overboard shopping during the sales. Would she ever hide an item or two from you to make it appear otherwise?

a) I don't think so; we all have a lapse now and then. She would tell me about it.

b) She thinks it's cute to hide her shopping spree from me.

If you tell your partner about a fear or weakness you have, would they ever bring it up in a conversation against you?

a) No, my partner would not do that because she always considers my feelings.

b) It has happened but I'm sure it's just a spur-of-the-moment thing.

If you tell your partner something confidential or a secret and it somehow reaches the ears of her friends, how does she react when you find out?

a) If I tell my partner it's confidential, it usually stays that way.

b) She says sorry and that she needed to talk to someone about it.

When you have a big fight with your partner, are you confident in knowing that the two of you will eventually make up?

a) Yes, we're not perfect. But we know fighting is part of life.

b) No, when we fight our relationship is always on shaky ground.

Do you ever feel the need to check your partner's phone or email?

a) No, we discuss our days with each other.

b) Yes, I sometimes have to resist the urge to find out if what she's telling me is true or not.

If your partner bumped into her ex and met him for a quick bite, would she tell you?

a) Yes. She would mention it casually.

b) No. I would usually hear about it from one of her friends a few months later.

ANSWERS

Mostly As: You and your partner seem to be in a trustworthy relationship. Sharing intimate details about your personal life is hard, but if you can do so confidentially, it means that you and your girl not only respect but trust each other. You are reliable with your secrets and honest about your own lives — from the trivial details to the bigger ones. Also, knowing that you can fight clean and that it is just a fight proves that your relationship is built on solid ground.

Mostly Bs: It's the little things that prove that you and your girl aren't in a fully trusting relationship. Her feeling the need to hide things as small as shopping from you or you not feeling confident in sharing your fears with her shows that you two have either not earned trust or lost it along the way. Whatever the reason, trust is crucial to a healthy relationship and you need to figure out if you can gain it before you commit further.