Ankur Warikoo says 5 things matter most when you are choosing a life partner: ‘Watch how they treat….’

How do you ascertain if someone is compatible with you? Is it mutual chemistry, similar interests or a well-matched kundali? According to Ankur Warikoo, it’s neither of these aforementioned criteria. Warikoo and his wife, Ruchi, have been together for nearly 25 years. Taking to LinkedIn, the entrepreneur-motivational speaker reminisced about how he met his wife on a Delhi University bus 27 years ago. They eventually tied the knot after seven years of dating. Warikoo then went on to share five qualities to look for in a partner, which can increase the chances of a long-lasting and happy partnership.

How They Treat Others

The entrepreneur-influencer specified that one should observe how an individual treats others, specifically those who can do nothing for them or are in subordinate positions such as the waiter or the driver. “That is exactly how they'll treat people once you're together…” Warikoo cautioned.

Conflict Resolution Abilities

Warikoo suggested you pay attention to how a person resolves conflicts or disagreements before making them your life partner. He admitted that although he and his wife have had disagreements, they have never fought. He also suggested observing if they escalate arguments instead of trying to resolve the misunderstanding. “When you disagree, do they fight to win, fight to fight, or talk to understand? That is what your life together will feel like…” he wrote.

Power Of Silence

If you are truly comfortable with each other, silences won’t become awkward or suffocating. “There were days we barely spoke. And it was comfortable, because I knew she was there, and she knew I was.

Every relationship has dull days. The silence should still feel easy,” he explained.

You Don’t Have To Dream The Same

Warikoo said a couple need not have the same dreams, but they do need to respect each other’s goals.

Be Friends First

Warikoo underlined that friendship being the foundation of a relationship can make it last longer. Long before they became a couple, the duo were friends, and that helped them form a more permanent bond. “Before we dated, we were friends for a year.

And a question crossed my mind: if I'd never fallen in love with her, would she still be my best friend? The answer was yes. We were friends first, then lovers. That distinction matters,” he stated.

He then concluded his post that marriage is like selecting a co-founder for the startup that is life, so one should not make decisions in a rush.

Warikoo’s wife, Ruchi Budhiraja, is director at WebVeda, one of Warikoo’s startups. She is a graduate of Miranda House, Delhi University and the National Institute of Advertising. Ankur Warikoo holds a BSc in Physics from Hindu College and an MBA in Finance from the Indian School of Business. A serial entrepreneur, Warikoo is the founder of multiple startups such as Monzy, the Indian Genius Challenge, etc.