Five ways to work with colleague you do not like

We can choose our workplace but it is never possible to choose our coworkers. So the first step towards easing this process is to accept that you have to work with that person. ET gathers more tips on how to handle this kind of workplace tension.

Focus on things you can control

You cannot change the way your coworker acts. Focus on your own behaviour, as that is what you can control. “Once you have stepped back and have your reactions in control, introspect if it’s because the other person is just different or if the person is doing the job better than you,” says Col Gian Singh Kadian, HR manager at OneShield Inc.

Negativity leads to negativity

Avoid the temptation to vent in front of coworkers as it is contagious and can reflect poorly on you. Instead, try spending more time with them. “If the project requires close coordination, take it as an opportunity. This allows you to know the person better,” says Kadian.

Managing your own reaction

“You may find the colleague annoying but you need to maintain your composure and not let that colleague know that you have been affected. If the situation becomes unbearable, simply move out of the situation,” says Rishi Puri, vice-president at Lords Hotels & Resorts.

Be the Buddha

If the situation does not mend and you feel it is affecting your job performance, the best course is to informally inform your immediate boss and seek help, says Puri.

Seek help

If nothing else works, practice emotional detachment. Ignore the irritating behaviour and perhaps consider taking it to senior management to bring about conflict resolution, says Kadian.